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As economy declines, so do divorces

To the list of cutbacks that Elkhart County residents are making in these tough economic times, add divorce.

That's right, says Circuit Court Judge Terry Shewmaker, who has noticed divorce filings declining along with the economy in the county, where nearly one in five people are out of work.

"Year in and year out, I always get 240" divorce filings, or so, Shewmaker told msnbc.com. Noticing the filings in his court stood at just 72 with half the year already gone, the Goshen-based judge had an assistant run statistics for the whole county court system over the past three years.

The numbers backed up his observation, showing about a 20 percent drop this year from 2007 and 2008 in the number of married couples who want to call it quits. Shewmaker said those numbers led him to a couple of "realistic conclusions."

"One thing you could attribute it to would be lack of funds to hire lawyers," he said, "which is borne out by the fact that we're getting more self-represented litigant cases." Another possibility: "People may have concluded that during hard financial times it's cheapest just to ride it out and stay together."

Attorney Rebecca Butler Power, who practices family law, said new calls to her Elkhart office from divorcing couples got "much slower" from October through March, "but it seemed like things started picking up in April."

The Elkhart County data mirrors a nationwide trend of unhappily married folks staying together in the current bad economy that was reported in November by msnbc.com. While economic stress is often cited for an increase in divorce rates, such as in the 1997 recession, the reverse could be happening this time because of the severity of the downturn.

And while a poor economy is often blamed for an increase in crime, officials say that does not appear to be the case in Elkhart County, as the Elkhart Truth recently reported.

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“One thing you could attribute it to would be lack of funds to hire lawyers,” he said, “which is borne out by the fact that we’re getting more self-represented litigant cases.” Another possibility: “People may have concluded that during hard financial times it’s cheapest just to ride it out and stay together.”

How sad. Really is all about the money.

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    Reply#1 - Mon Jul 6, 2009 11:14 AM EDT
    {"commentId":8052305,"authorDomain":"seilertechco"}

    Perhaps this is a time to redouble the courts efforts to provide help to self represented litigants, rid the court of bias and discourage breaking the Rules of Court (primarily defrauding) by attorneys. Read Rules of Professional Conduct, Maintaining the Integrity of the Profession, Rule 8.3 Reporting Professional Misconduct, then demand the courts public officials abide by it. Honest services of the public office should not be openly corrupted and allowed to be bought for political favor.

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      Reply#2 - Mon Jul 6, 2009 11:41 AM EDT
      {"commentId":8053969,"authorDomain":"lhalstead"}

      Staying in bad marriages or staying in bad jobs. Probably the same reason. Lack of viable options and just not enough money to take the risk at this time.

      By the way, has Obama made a return visit to Elkhart yet? Maybe he's moved on to Kokomo since their unemployment is over 16% now and the highest in Indiana, I believe.

      Great work on the stimulus package Joe Biden. It was truly a spending farce to reward cronies and has done nothing to actually create jobs or stimulate economic activity to create employment long-term.

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        Reply#3 - Mon Jul 6, 2009 1:01 PM EDT
        {"commentId":8056625,"authorDomain":"lyrach"}

        I agree with this - eap. the stimulus package by Mr.Joe. Too bad isn't it? When is America going to learn to be responsible with money - if it isn't there, it isn't there. When did credit cards become cash, and when did we stop paying with it? It will be amazing when/if our country decides to become debt free.

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          #3.1 - Mon Jul 6, 2009 2:55 PM EDT
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          {"commentId":8055944,"authorDomain":"KellyMarie46"}

          In these tough economic times, I recently went through a divorce. I actually thought about staying with an abusive husband because of the financial strain leaving him would place on me and my children. He actually used it as one of many tactics to try to make me stay with him, "You can't afford to divorce me," he would say. I feel sorry for anyone who stays in a a relationship for financial reasons — it's better to be broke and happy. That comes from experience.

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          Reply#4 - Mon Jul 6, 2009 2:27 PM EDT
          {"commentId":8108903,"authorDomain":"Allie41"}

          Good Job KellyMarie. Even though I am not abused physically the emotional part is just as bad. I keep telling myself that too. Maybe someday I will be brave enough. Money isn't everything but it helps when you have kids.

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          #4.1 - Wed Jul 8, 2009 7:56 PM EDT
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          {"commentId":8062187,"authorDomain":"caseylau"}

          KellyMarie46,

          Glad you were able to break away. Abuse is too high a price to pay for economic stability. Good luck as you make your new life.

          For others, it may be an opportunity to try to make it work. As opposed to treating marriages as disposable, and dumping them when the first sign of trouble creeps in, maybe more will make an effort to make it work. At first as an economic necessity, and then as they find things that made them fall in love in the first place.

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          Reply#5 - Mon Jul 6, 2009 7:03 PM EDT
          {"commentId":8080153,"authorDomain":"tchme2nyt"}

          I do not know a single divorced person who treated their "marraige as disposable." I actually know more people who stay in loveless marraiges because they do not have the courage to go through the changes and hardships of a divorce. They have convinced themselves that it is their lot in life to not experience a loving relationship.

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            #5.1 - Tue Jul 7, 2009 3:40 PM EDT
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            {"commentId":8068740,"authorDomain":"mneice"}

            Face it - you need to get the heck out of Indiana.  There is NOTHING there but farm ground and factory jobs.  I moved to WA state where I am a Web Developer.  I live near the ocean and mountains where it is beautiful.  Stop holding on to nothing and go out and grab something (in another state our west).

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              Reply#6 - Tue Jul 7, 2009 12:40 AM EDT
              {"commentId":8070997,"authorDomain":"trakker"}

              Sadly, you're right. Elkhart was a great place to grow up in the 50s and 60s, but after college I had to leave because towns like Elkhart stifle you as an adult. I moved to Washington, DC, and have never regretted it. I still have a lot of happy memories of Elkhart though.

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                #6.1 - Tue Jul 7, 2009 7:42 AM EDT
                {"commentId":8079832,"authorDomain":"Sugartree"}

                What's wrong with farm ground and factory jobs? I come from a small town very similar to Elkhart, where farming and a few small manufacting plants are the only primary income source for locals. Unfortunately some of our brightest youth do end up leaving after graduation, however, there are still plenty of families that need these jobs to survive. I've lived out west in the mountains and near the ocean as well - where you say "it is beautiful," but nothing soothes my soul more than "home," where the farm ground and green fields are plenty. Did you know that many states "out west" don't have the natural resources to provide for rapidly growing populations...ie: water, tillable soil, etc.??? Do you know that without the farmers and factory workers, you may not be eating that cheeseburger while sitting behind your big fancy computer?

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                  #6.2 - Tue Jul 7, 2009 3:27 PM EDT
                  {"commentId":8080042,"authorDomain":"tchme2nyt"}

                  Shhh Ex-Indiana, you are supposed to tell them how much rain we get and how you never see the sun.

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                    #6.3 - Tue Jul 7, 2009 3:35 PM EDT
                    {"commentId":8088333,"authorDomain":"Sparkles1973"}

                    Teach Me Tonight, we don't see the sun as often here in Indiana as you would think. I miss the mountains too, you don't get anything close to that beauty here!!

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                      #6.4 - Tue Jul 7, 2009 9:54 PM EDT
                      {"commentId":8119349,"authorDomain":"juju011"}

                      Sun? What's that!? I live in Elkhart and I don't think I remember!

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                        #6.5 - Thu Jul 9, 2009 12:05 PM EDT
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                        {"commentId":8080414,"authorDomain":"sre-1203418"}

                        Yeah I would like to see how many have separated- but not divorced. Divorces cost money- something a lot of people dont have now. They stay married because they just cant afford it- no other reason.

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                        Reply#7 - Tue Jul 7, 2009 3:50 PM EDT
                        {"commentId":8090478,"authorDomain":"ANNASTRUG"}

                        Yeah,and sometimes staying married even cost you more-I still have to pay my husband's back taxes he accumulated by settling the credit cards I diidn't even know about!So much for the help to single mother!thanks,IRS.

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                          #7.1 - Wed Jul 8, 2009 12:13 AM EDT
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                          {"commentId":8087617,"authorDomain":"kdickinson3"}

                          May the Good Lord keep the stock market on the skids and greese them! It is well known that all of mankind fares better in hard times than in afluency. In hard times it takes more thought to make all things come togather. but in afluent times you just throw money at the problem until it goes away. It takes no thought, at all. When the kids come for a $20.00 or a $100.00, if you can just hand it to them, that isn't good, but if you have to explain why that is not possible, you have to comunicate with them, sposes also. with no instant gratifisation, you all will learn patience. This is good. When people worked with animals they had to use patience, and it carried over into their affairs with one another.

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                          Reply#8 - Tue Jul 7, 2009 9:12 PM EDT
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                          {"commentId":8087849,"authorDomain":"floridalou"}

                          I agree with Teach Me Tonight... If your spouse is abusive or even just doesn't care anymore, no amount of "work" can change that. So many people waste years in dead marriages because of pressure to "make it work". I read a study that said many couples are getting "non-divorces" where they are separated in every way but financially because they can't afford it otherwise. There has to be a better way than that...

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                            Reply#9 - Tue Jul 7, 2009 9:26 PM EDT
                            {"commentId":8124126,"authorDomain":"ernie-fullerton-ca"}

                            you would think that people would be more selective and really get to know one another, inside out before they say i do. to some people marriage is just a game. The kids are the ones that get caught in the middle. Very sad indeed...

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                              Reply#10 - Thu Jul 9, 2009 3:48 PM EDT
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